Infidelity

Infidelity. On a normal context it would comprise of marital disloyalty; adultery. But have you ever thought about infidelity in the larger context? Infidelity in the terms of the mind?

This is something which has got my mind working for quiet a while.

When I am talking about infidelity of the mind, there are two aspects of it.

One aspect is infidelity in its normal sense, where it is sexual in nature. But unlike the usual scenario, this is sexual yet not physical.

How many times have this happened that you see a absolutely drop dead gorgeous person and you just can't help but get those mundane areas of the brain kick into active frenzy of fantasies? You may not do anything physical about it, but would it be still infidelity? To think about anyone other than your beau in a sexual manner? Is it adultery of the mind? Or is adultery just adultery when physical contact is made?

Another take of the same scenario is even more baffling. This situation is common in relationships where the sexual chemistry is disastrous. But as love making is quintessential for the survival of a relationship, the person has no choice but to fantasize about others in bed when making love to their beau. I would say that this is the worst case of infidelity. But, the other person in the relationship may not be even aware of it. Even if he is, would this be eligible to be classified as infidelity? Fantasizing somebody other than your beau in bed?

The second aspect of infidelity of the mind is something which fascinates me and gets me probing. This has nothing sexual about it. This aspect is in every sense what actual infidelity of the mind is all about. When you get so close to a person, that you would discuss things of utmost importance with them, but would find it unnecessary to do the same with your beau. Would this be grounds fair enough for infidelity?

When you think about this, it is something which happens quite on a normal basis actually. Hardly anybody considers this as infidelity, simply for the fact that they don't think of it as adulterous which in turn is unfair a ground to be accused of infidelity as per its definition. But, I seriously believe that people should think about it deeply and answer.

I believe that fidelity of the mind is much more important than fidelity of the body. After all, a relationship is primarily a connection of two minds. The physicality is just an expression of this connection; isn't it?

When two people are in love, it said that they should share their body, mind and soul. So why is it that disloyalty in only one element of it namely the body is considered as infidelity?

Infidelity is infidelity. Period.