A friend, a lover, a friend?

Have you ever had a friend with whom you shared everything under the roof? A friend with whom you shouted with joy, cried your heart out, criticised more than appreciated? If so, how many times have you confused deep intense friendship as love?

It is to be taken for granted that no two people can remain best friends without love. Many a times, it so happens that one confuses the love we have as a friend as the love of lovers. It is also true that at some point of time, we did see our friends as a potential lover. It is highly unlikely that you haven't had a crush on your best friend. But whether things didn't work out for various reasons and the friendship remained just friendship is a different matter.

I firmly believe that a lover can never be your best friend and your best friend can never be your lover. There will always be things you definitely wouldn't be comfortable talking about with your lover; particularly if the matter concerns them. At the same time there are things which you can never tell your friend but can comfortably talk about with your lover. It is almost impossible to merge the both into a single being as both have different purposes in life.

I am not saying that best friends can never turn into lovers. On the contrary, the probability of them turning into lovers is extremely high. However, the minute they turn into your lover, they begin loosing their status as the best friend. The post of the best friend would slowly be occupied by another close friend. For, if your lover is your best friend, I believe the romance would end there. Whats even worse would be the fact that there would be no relationship counselor!!

Even tough a lover and a best friend is two sides of the same coin, they are two different sides! A lover is a lover and a best friend is a best friend. Period.